Firstly, why would you want to get your ex back, they are your ex. After a few weeks of self pity and wishing things had been better you’ll begin to remember the saliva at the side of his mouth that you really detested. The way he said yeah instead of yes in public. How he had been rude to your friends, or too nice to them. Why would you bother? I could only imagine it would be out of not wanting to feel rejected, or from being too needy. If your ex is worth having back, the best way to know how to get back with your ex is to get on with your life, be happy and well balanced and maybe one day youll run into each other again and say wow, how lovely to see you. How about dinner? If the past is full of bad memories of bad dinners, insults and too much football, why bother, get tickets to the ballet and have a giggling girls night and forget about him. Its not worth the effort and youll find that there really is someone better coming into your life if youll let them.